#KindnessCounts

This was something I posted on social media back about a month ago.  I want to keep it because I do feel it in my heart of hearts and wanted to share in the blog world.   When I graduated college, I was so thrilled and invigorated by the thought and ability to travel for performing jobs. And I did-for years. My permanent address was my parents and I drove to every gig-from Wisconsin to Florida to Delaware and everywhere in between, in my trusty red Honda, Rhonda. Each travel adventure was more exciting than the last and each gig I was at, I would start to feel at home. I thought this feeling was mostly because I would be there for months o n end and because of that, often made lasting friendships. I loved it and even after I moved to New York City, I still continued to travel and perform. But even in NYC, I found little places in the city that I wouldn’t have to fight for space or attention. The health food store my boyfriend and new friends worked at. The apartment I shared with

I’ve always said, “Don’t offer. Just do it.” It’s a hard concept to always follow through on but when you do, it’s usually accepted. And more than that, needed. Be kind. Be empathetic. Listen without judgement. And show up. Take the risk to show up. 

Love is your partner telling you to go to bed the minute you walk through the door of your home after a long of travels because he knows how much sleep you require. Love is then him staying up to care for the dog who is bounding around the apartment because she's so excited your home. Love is waking up the next morning and opening the fridge to hurriedly make a coffee and then you see your lunch box. It's full of food for your work meal today because he stayed up and did t hat too-because he knows how much you hate having to use your lunch time to go get it somewhere else. Love is all of these things. And though I'm blurry eyed, spent and probably don't smell the best from a wonderful long weekend-my love comes in a guy who did some simple things to make my morning even better. So today, though I know it's important to see the hate in the world so we can diverge and learn from it, I'm going to focus on the love in my life. And In my heart. ...And in my l